feat(p7-times): real directory/symlink time preservation; -O/-J meaningful

Wave D of Phase 7. Make -O/--omit-dir-times and -J/--omit-link-times real by
preserving directory and symlink times, and mark --secluded-args as an explicit
Impossible/Divergence no-op.

Wire: PROTOCOL_VERSION 2.16.0 -> 2.17.0. Adds a terminal STATUS_DIR_TIMES frame
(int count + (wire path, metadata) pairs) sent after all file data and the
optional delete manifest. STATUS_MKDIR also carries metadata for --dirs entries.
Config-frame layout is unchanged.

Sender: the recursive scanner captures every traversed source directory (both
DirectoryScanner and the parallel scanner root + workers, appends mutex-guarded)
into a shared list; the single-threaded and -m paths transmit it last.

Receiver: a DirTimeList accumulates received directory metadata and applies it
with fd-relative no-follow utimensat only at the very end -- after all children,
after the commit-style --delete, and after --delay-updates publication -- in the
single-threaded success frame and in server.c after the -m threads join. -O skips
the application. Symlink metadata is applied at link creation with
utimensat/fchownat/fchmodat AT_SYMLINK_NOFOLLOW; -J suppresses only link times.
identity_apply_ownership_link shares the identity resolver with the fd path.

Docs: -O/-J rows -> Implemented; --secluded-args -> Impossible/Divergence;
--protocol accepted/rejected values and Phase-6/7 notes updated.

Tests: unit (scanner dir capture, DirTimeList apply, symlink metadata, protocol
version values) and integration (dir mtime round-trip + -O, symlink mtime
round-trip + -J, independent suppression), parameterized over single/multithread.

tests/integration/test_preflight.py

@@ -94,14 +94,14 @@ def _seed_protocol_source(source):
 class TestProtocol:
     @pytest.mark.ci
     def test_protocol_current_version_accepted(self, shared_server):
-        """--protocol=2.16.0 (the current PROTOCOL_VERSION) is accepted and the
+        """--protocol=2.17.0 (the current PROTOCOL_VERSION) is accepted and the
         transfer completes normally."""
         source = os.path.join(TEST_DATA_DIR, "proto_ok_src")
         dest = os.path.join(TEST_DATA_DIR, "proto_ok_dst")
         shutil.rmtree(dest, ignore_errors=True)
         os.makedirs(dest)
         _seed_protocol_source(source)
-        result, _ = run_client(source, dest, flags=["--protocol=2.16.0"],
+        result, _ = run_client(source, dest, flags=["--protocol=2.17.0"],
                                port=shared_server.port)
         assert result.returncode == 0, \
             f"--protocol current run failed: {(result.stderr or result.stdout)[:400]}"
@@ -118,7 +118,7 @@ class TestProtocol:
         shutil.rmtree(dest, ignore_errors=True)
         os.makedirs(dest)
         _seed_protocol_source(source)
-        for bad in ("2.15.0", "2.17.0", "216", "31"):
+        for bad in ("2.15.0", "2.16.0", "216", "31"):
             result, _ = run_client(source, dest, flags=[f"--protocol={bad}"],
                                    port=shared_server.port)
             assert result.returncode != 0, f"--protocol={bad} should be rejected"