feat(p7-times): real directory/symlink time preservation; -O/-J meaningful

Wave D of Phase 7. Make -O/--omit-dir-times and -J/--omit-link-times real by
preserving directory and symlink times, and mark --secluded-args as an explicit
Impossible/Divergence no-op.

Wire: PROTOCOL_VERSION 2.16.0 -> 2.17.0. Adds a terminal STATUS_DIR_TIMES frame
(int count + (wire path, metadata) pairs) sent after all file data and the
optional delete manifest. STATUS_MKDIR also carries metadata for --dirs entries.
Config-frame layout is unchanged.

Sender: the recursive scanner captures every traversed source directory (both
DirectoryScanner and the parallel scanner root + workers, appends mutex-guarded)
into a shared list; the single-threaded and -m paths transmit it last.

Receiver: a DirTimeList accumulates received directory metadata and applies it
with fd-relative no-follow utimensat only at the very end -- after all children,
after the commit-style --delete, and after --delay-updates publication -- in the
single-threaded success frame and in server.c after the -m threads join. -O skips
the application. Symlink metadata is applied at link creation with
utimensat/fchownat/fchmodat AT_SYMLINK_NOFOLLOW; -J suppresses only link times.
identity_apply_ownership_link shares the identity resolver with the fd path.

Docs: -O/-J rows -> Implemented; --secluded-args -> Impossible/Divergence;
--protocol accepted/rejected values and Phase-6/7 notes updated.

Tests: unit (scanner dir capture, DirTimeList apply, symlink metadata, protocol
version values) and integration (dir mtime round-trip + -O, symlink mtime
round-trip + -J, independent suppression), parameterized over single/multithread.

src/shared/identity.h

@@ -55,6 +55,13 @@ bool identity_active_enabled(void);
  * never fatal (rsync parity: the transfer must not abort). */
 void identity_apply_ownership(int fd, int32_t source_uid, int32_t source_gid);
 
+/* P7 Wave D: the no-follow (symlink) counterpart.  Resolves the same
+ * usermap/groupmap/chown/numeric-ids policy but applies it with
+ * fchownat(..., AT_SYMLINK_NOFOLLOW) so a symlink's own ownership is changed
+ * without ever dereferencing it.  A no-op unless an identity flag is active. */
+void identity_apply_ownership_link(int parent_fd, const char* leaf, int32_t source_uid,
+                                   int32_t source_gid);
+
 /* Receiver-side wire validation of the resolved identity fields. */
 bool identity_wire_valid(const Config* config);