test(parity): add differential rsync-parity CI gate

Add tests/integration/test_differential_parity.py plus a shared
parity_harness.py and a data-driven parity_caveats.py allowlist.  The gate
runs real rsync 3.4.1 and FastSync over the same corpora, compares the
destination trees (paths, hashes, symlink targets, modes, hard-link
grouping) and the normalized -i/--stats/--out-format output, and fails on
any difference not listed in the allowlist.  Stale allowlist entries warn
(or fail under FASTSYNC_PARITY_STRICT=1) so the residual list shrinks.

Register parity/parity_ci markers and wire a fast PR job (parity_ci) plus a
push-only full job (parity, strict) into .gitea/workflows/ci.yaml.
Document the gate and the allowlist workflow in tests/integration/README.md.

pytest.ini

@@ -8,3 +8,6 @@ markers =
     daemon_detach: real double-fork backgrounding path (--daemon without
         --no-detach); slower/fragile, so it runs in the full suite but not the
         fast PR gate
+    parity: differential rsync-parity case (full set; runs on push to
+        dev/main)
+    parity_ci: fast differential rsync-parity subset (runs on the PR gate)