fix(receiver): non-blocking receiver opens, inplace type gate, dry-run/B4/B5/B6

Address confirmed receiver security findings B1-B6:

B1 (HIGH): add O_NONBLOCK to the three receiver read-opens that opened an
existing destination/basis entry before the S_ISREG gate
(incremental_check_open_destination, basis_open_regular, hardlink_read_source)
so a client-planted FIFO can no longer block the receive thread forever while
the post-open type gate still rejects it.

B2 (HIGH/MED): --inplace now fstatat(AT_SYMLINK_NOFOLLOW)-probes the target and
refuses any existing non-regular entry, opens with O_NONBLOCK, and re-checks
S_ISREG on the opened fd.  This stops a FIFO from hanging the open and stops a
char/block device from being written directly (bypassing --write-devices).

B3 (MED): under --dry-run the incremental quick-skip no longer reads/hashes the
destination file for --checksum/--delta; it decides from metadata only and
reports would-transfer when the comparison is inconclusive, closing the
read-only-module content-hash oracle.

B4 (LOW): xattr_name_appliable() now gates the two system.posix_acl_* names on
preserve_acls (--acls), not the derived use_xattrs (--xattrs OR --acls).  The
receiver drops (never applies) ACL entries when -A was not negotiated while
keeping user.* working for -X.

B5 (INFO): receive_manifest_section() charges a per-entry overhead against
MAX_MANIFEST_BYTES and the aggregate entry count across all three sections is
capped at MAX_MANIFEST_ENTRIES.

B6 (MED): data_charge_session() reserves decompressed/chunk-copy bytes against
the owning ProtocolSession (MAX_CONNECTION_MEMORY) and records them on the Data
so data_destroy() releases them via the Data.owner path.  Applied to the
whole-file/append/delta decompression sites and chunk_deserialize() per-file
copies; a missing session owner degrades to the previous uncharged behavior.

Tests: FIFO destination/basis non-hang (with alarm), --inplace FIFO/device
refusal, dry-run no-read oracle test plus updated metadata-only dry-run tests,
ACL-without--acls drop, manifest total-entry cap, and chunk session charging.

src/shared/file.c

@@ -890,13 +890,35 @@ static bool file_to_disk_secure_impl(const char* path, const void* data,
   if (inplace) {
     /* --inplace writes directly into the destination; a scratch --temp-dir
        does not apply and must never redirect these writes. */
-    fd = openat(dirfd, leaf, O_WRONLY | O_CREAT | O_CLOEXEC | O_NOFOLLOW, 0644);
+    /* Type gate BEFORE opening: an existing destination entry that is not a
+       regular file (FIFO, socket, char/block device, directory) must never be
+       opened for writing.  Opening a FIFO would block the receive thread
+       forever and writing into a device would bypass the --write-devices /
+       super-mode gate (a client-controlled device write).  fstatat with
+       AT_SYMLINK_NOFOLLOW does not follow a symlink and does not block. */
+    struct stat pre_stat;
+    if (fstatat(dirfd, leaf, &pre_stat, AT_SYMLINK_NOFOLLOW) == 0 && !S_ISREG(pre_stat.st_mode)) {
+      close(dirfd);
+      free(leaf);
+      return false;
+    }
+    /* O_NONBLOCK: a no-op for a regular file, but a raced-in FIFO cannot block
+       the open before the post-open S_ISREG re-check rejects it. */
+    fd = openat(dirfd, leaf, O_WRONLY | O_CREAT | O_CLOEXEC | O_NOFOLLOW | O_NONBLOCK, 0644);
     if (fd >= 0) {
       struct stat destination_stat;
+      /* Re-check the opened descriptor: a concurrent replacement between the
+         fstatat probe and the open (or a device/FIFO raced in) must never be
+         written through. */
+      if (fstat(fd, &destination_stat) != 0 || !S_ISREG(destination_stat.st_mode)) {
+        close(fd);
+        close(dirfd);
+        free(leaf);
+        return false;
+      }
       bool newer = false;
-      if (update && metadata && fstat(fd, &destination_stat) == 0 &&
-          S_ISREG(destination_stat.st_mode)) {
-        newer = stat_is_newer(&destination_stat, metadata);
+      if (update && metadata && stat_is_newer(&destination_stat, metadata)) {
+        newer = true;
       }
       if (newer) {
         ok = true;