fix(server): gate --force by --allow-delete and secure root super default

C2: --force is deletion authority (an incoming regular file may remove a
non-empty destination directory tree, and --delete-missing-args may
remove a non-empty directory mirror), but it was not masked by the
operator --allow-delete policy.  The handler now clears
config->force_delete unless --allow-delete was given, exactly like
--delete and --delete-missing-args.

C3: a standalone TCP / --stdio server running as root defaulted to
SUPER_MODE_AUTO, so an untrusted client --devices/--write-devices/
--super could make it create device nodes, write raw devices, or apply
client-chosen ownership.  A privileged standalone receiver now forces
SUPER_MODE_OFF unless the operator opts in with the new server-only
--allow-super flag.  Non-root receivers are unchanged, and the daemon
path keeps its per-module `client owner = yes` gate.  --allow-super is
rejected with --no-super or --daemon.

C6: tls_client_identity_allowed now rejects a CN whose reported length
reached the buffer bound, so a truncated over-long CN cannot be matched
by a required --client-cn prefix.

Tests: an integration regression proving --force cannot replace a
destination directory without --allow-delete; standalone-default tests
for --copy-as refusal and (root-only) skipped device creation; a CLI
unit test for the new flag.  The integration shared_server fixture opts
in with --allow-super so the existing root-only ownership/device/copy-as
tests continue to exercise the opted-in configuration.  README and
RSYNC_COMPAT document the flag and the force/delete gating.

tests/conftest.py

@@ -16,7 +16,13 @@ def shared_server():
     Under pytest-xdist this session fixture is instantiated once per worker
     process, so each worker gets its own server on an ephemeral port."""
     server = ServerManager()
-    server.start()
+    # --allow-super keeps the historical permissive super mode for a root
+    # receiver: the integration suite's root-only ownership/device/copy-as tests
+    # exercise that opted-in configuration.  The secure default (a root
+    # standalone server without --allow-super forces SUPER_MODE_OFF) is covered
+    # explicitly by TestStandaloneSuperDefault in test_features.py.  Non-root
+    # runs are unaffected by the flag.
+    server.start(extra_args=["--allow-super"])
     yield server
     server.stop()