fix(parity): receiver temp-dir confinement, server I/O floor, delete budget

Address review findings on feat/rsync-parity:
- confine --temp-dir below the receive root (reject absolute/.. like
  backup-dir/partial-dir); keep EXDEV non-atomic fallback
- floor server session I/O deadlines at SERVER_IO_TIMEOUT_SEC (60s) and
  install it on the socket layer at startup (slow-loris)
- charge each --delete-missing-args directory removal once and clamp the
  extras-walk remaining budget so it can never underflow past --max-delete
- normalize --compress-choice=auto to zstd client-side and accept it on
  receive so auto transfers no longer fail
- map received --max-alloc=0 to MAX_SERVER_ALLOC (receive path only)
- zero File.dest_state; include log-file-format in report_dest_info;
  add STATUS_DELETE_LIMIT name; recognize --skip-compress as a
  separate-value option; OOM-guard send_list_only root entry; drop the
  dead -M= branch; record the bare relative protected prefix for -R
  size-prunes in both scanners; refresh delete-manifest comment
- pin the rsync tarball sha256 and bump integrator image to v11

Tests: temp-dir rejection/relative/cross-device, server timeout floor,
delete-missing dir budget regression, compress-choice=auto e2e,
max-alloc=0 receive mapping, dest_state, report_dest_info modes,
skip-compress dash value, -M short forms, -R root size-prune mirror
protection (rsync 3.4.1 confirmed).

tests/integration/common.py

@@ -254,6 +254,13 @@ def _wait_for_port(port, timeout=5):
 
 
 def _wait_proc(proc, timeout=5):
+    """Stop a long-lived subprocess promptly.  The server installs a SIGTERM
+    handler, so signal first and only escalate to SIGKILL if it does not exit;
+    waiting without signalling would burn the full timeout on every stop."""
+    if proc.poll() is not None:
+        proc.wait()
+        return
+    proc.terminate()
     try:
         proc.wait(timeout=timeout)
     except subprocess.TimeoutExpired: