fix(server): reject --allow-super with --stdio, fix module host-list append

Re-review findings on the C3/C4 hardening branch:

- --stdio is the SSH transport whose remote argv is composed by the client
  (including via --remote-option), so accepting --allow-super there let a
  client defeat the C3 secure default for a root receiver.  Reject it at CLI
  parse time (standalone TCP only) and force the process-global flag off for
  --stdio as defense in depth.  Correct the help text and README/RSYNC_COMPAT:
  the --stdio argv is client-composed, super stays off, and a forced command is
  needed if the default must hold.
- daemon_conf: the per-module 'hosts allow'/'hosts deny' call sites passed
  module_name and replace in the wrong order, so multiple lines replaced
  instead of appended and the empty-value error omitted the module name.  Pass
  (module->name, false) like the global keys; add a unit test for two
  per-module allow/deny lines appending.
- tls: read the client CN via ASN1_STRING_to_UTF8 so an exactly-required-length
  name is accepted and only actual over-length CNs are rejected.

src/server/server_cli.h

@@ -45,13 +45,16 @@ typedef struct ServerCliOptions {
    * device-node creation) even when running as root.  Applies to --stdio and
    * --daemon alike; also makes the server refuse any client --copy-as. */
   bool no_super; /* --no-super */
-  /* --allow-super: standalone/--stdio only opt-in that keeps the historical
-   * permissive behavior for a PRIVILEGED (root) receiver.  Without it a root
-   * standalone server forces SUPER_MODE_OFF, so a client --devices /
-   * --write-devices / --super / ownership request cannot make it create device
-   * nodes, write raw devices, or apply client-chosen ownership.  Non-root
-   * receivers are unaffected (the kernel refuses the confined attempts).  The
-   * daemon path instead uses the per-module `client owner = yes` opt-in. */
+  /* --allow-super: locally-launched standalone TCP listener opt-in that keeps
+   * the historical permissive behavior for a PRIVILEGED (root) receiver.
+   * Without it a root standalone server forces SUPER_MODE_OFF, so a client
+   * --devices / --write-devices / --super / ownership request cannot make it
+   * create device nodes, write raw devices, or apply client-chosen ownership.
+   * It is rejected for --stdio: that path's remote argv is composed by the
+   * client (directly and via --remote-option), so it must never opt a root
+   * receiver back into super mode.  Non-root receivers are unaffected (the
+   * kernel refuses the confined attempts).  The daemon path instead uses the
+   * per-module `client owner = yes` opt-in. */
   bool allow_super; /* --allow-super */
   /* --iconv=CONVERT_SPEC: the server's own LOCAL charset declaration.  The
    * client's full spec rides the wire config frame anyway; when the server is