feat(dry-run): server-contacting --dry-run (protocol 2.21.0)

--dry-run now handshakes with a remote/daemon receiver and reports what
WOULD transfer/skip based on receiver state, mutating nothing on either
side.

- Serialize Config.dry_run into the wire config frame and append
  STATUS_DRY_RUN_TRANSFER to the status enum (no renumbering); bump
  PROTOCOL_VERSION/CMake VERSION/CHANGELOG/golden wire to 2.21.0.
- Receiver: receive_incremental_check_ex runs the normal read-only
  decision and answers STATUS_OK (skip) or STATUS_DRY_RUN_TRANSFER
  (would transfer) with no basis materialization/append/delta/full
  transfer.  All mutation sites are guarded by !dry_run: file store,
  manifest deletes, --mkpath root creation, --delay-updates staging,
  publication, directory-time application, and outcome acks.
- Client: send_dry_run_remote connects, sends the config, checks each
  regular file and prints the would-transfer set + trailer; no file data
  or delete manifest is sent.  Plain local destinations keep the
  client-side manifest.

src/shared/file_receive.h

@@ -24,6 +24,13 @@ File* file_receive_symlink(int file_descriptor, const Config* config);
 File* file_receive_special(int file_descriptor);
 bool file_special_rdev_valid(int32_t major, int32_t minor, mode_t mode);
 File* receive_incremental_check(int fd, const Config* config, bool* skipped);
+/* Extended variant used by the receiver.  `would_transfer` (may be NULL) is set
+ * true only on the server-contacting --dry-run path when the file is not up to
+ * date: the receiver has already sent STATUS_DRY_RUN_TRANSFER and returns NULL
+ * without storing anything.  On that path `*skipped` is true for an up-to-date
+ * (STATUS_OK) file and both flags are false for a genuine error. */
+File* receive_incremental_check_ex(int fd, const Config* config, bool* skipped,
+                                   bool* would_transfer);
 
 /* P7 Wave D directory-time accumulator.  The receiver collects the metadata of
  * every directory it creates/receives (STATUS_MKDIR with metadata and/or the