feat(delete): default --delete to rsync delete-during; add --delete-commit

- plain --delete with no timing flag now selects delete-during (progressive
  deletion, matching rsync and avoiding the full old+new tree peak)
- new long-only FastSync --delete-commit restores the old atomic behavior
  (delete only after the whole transfer succeeds); timing-identical to
  --delete-after, implemented via the same wire bool
- timing flags are mutually exclusive; --delete-commit conflicts with other
  timings; --delete-before/--delete-during rows reworded per Phase-0 probes
- CHANGELOG migration note; tally unchanged 116/14/27

tests/test_server.c

@@ -1291,6 +1291,7 @@ static void test_dry_run_delete_plan_commit_does_not_delete() {
   EXPECT_TRUE(send_int(p[1], 0)); /* size-skipped prefixes */
   EXPECT_TRUE(send_int(p[1], 1)); /* missing-args exact deletions */
   EXPECT_TRUE(send_str(p[1], "victim.txt"));
+  EXPECT_TRUE(send_int(p[1], 1));   /* apply: a real plan */
   EXPECT_TRUE(send_str(p[1], ".")); /* receive root plan */
   EXPECT_TRUE(send_int(p[1], 0));   /* kept child directories */
   EXPECT_TRUE(send_int(p[1], 0));   /* kept child files */