feat(delete): default --delete to rsync delete-during; add --delete-commit

- plain --delete with no timing flag now selects delete-during (progressive
  deletion, matching rsync and avoiding the full old+new tree peak)
- new long-only FastSync --delete-commit restores the old atomic behavior
  (delete only after the whole transfer succeeds); timing-identical to
  --delete-after, implemented via the same wire bool
- timing flags are mutually exclusive; --delete-commit conflicts with other
  timings; --delete-before/--delete-during rows reworded per Phase-0 probes
- CHANGELOG migration note; tally unchanged 116/14/27

src/client/usage.c

@@ -62,8 +62,7 @@ void print_usage(void) {
   printf("  NOTE: the FastSync batch format is NOT interoperable with rsync's batch\n");
   printf("  files (different container format); do not mix the two tools.\n");
   printf("  --delete            Delete files on receiver not in source\n");
-  printf("                      (default timing: delete only after the whole\n");
-  printf("                      transfer has succeeded)\n");
+  printf("                      (default timing: delete-during, like rsync --del)\n");
   printf("  --delete-before     Delete extras before the transfer starts\n");
   printf("                      (implies --delete)\n");
   printf("  --delete-during     Delete a directory's extras as that directory is\n");
@@ -72,7 +71,9 @@ void print_usage(void) {
   printf("  --delete-delay      Record the extras during the scan but remove them\n");
   printf("                      only after a successful transfer (implies --delete)\n");
   printf("  --delete-after      Delete only after the whole transfer succeeded\n");
-  printf("                      (the default --delete timing; implies --delete)\n");
+  printf("                      (implies --delete)\n");
+  printf("  --delete-commit     FastSync-only: restore the late whole-tree commit\n");
+  printf("                      (identical to --delete-after; implies --delete)\n");
   printf("  --delete-excluded   Also delete destination files that were excluded on\n");
   printf("                      the source (default protects them, matching rsync)\n");
   printf("  --max-delete=NUM    Delete at most NUM destination entries per run; if the\n");
@@ -93,7 +94,8 @@ void print_usage(void) {
   printf("  -m, --prune-empty-dirs  Do not create empty directories (a recursive transfer\n");
   printf("                      otherwise recreates them, like rsync)\n");
   printf("  Note: each timing flag implies --delete.  Combining a timing flag with\n");
-  printf("  --no-delete (in either order) is rejected as a config error.\n");
+  printf("  --no-delete (in either order) is rejected as a config error, as is more\n");
+  printf("  than one timing flag.\n");
   printf("  --ignore-existing  Skip files that already exist on receiver\n");
   printf("  --delay-updates    Put updated files into place only at the end of transfer\n");
   printf("  --dirs, -d, --old-dirs, --old-d  Transfer the named directory entries without\n");